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worst in me, I really mean it. At its best,
love is always a transforming experience.
It is worth fighting for when you find it.
It makes you want to try harder. After
having lost many people I love, it is not
something I ever take for granted any-
more.
What do you think about sex?
I think sex is also beautiful and complicat-
ed (laughs). That is such a broad question,
what do I think about sex? I think there
is a huge difference between having sex
and making love and I have experienced
both. I was lucky that my first true sexual
experience was a very loving one. He was
my first love. In general, I love sex and
am a very sexual person. I have done all
sorts of wild things and have always felt
this need to experience different sorts of
sexual experiences. However, deep down
I consider myself vanilla, which would
surprise most people who know me. I told
that to a good friend once actually and she
said, “no you’re a freak”(laughs again). I
can understand why she thought that. At
the time, I was seeing a person who had
a fetish with my legs and he loved to be
kicked in his balls. Now just to clarify,
that is not something I am into (I did not
even know it existed as a fetish before
him) but we talked a lot about why he
was into it. It fascinated me. In addition,
it made him happy and I cared about him
so it did not feel weird after awhile. It
was just part of what we did. In general, I
would say my best experiences have been
very basic, whether they are with a man
or a woman, because I have dated both.
My most satisfying sexual experiences
have been overall with the people I have
loved or cared about most; with those who
I have felt safest. The people who I have
felt really understand me. I have gotten
really into role-playing with my cur-
rent boyfriend that was something I had
always wanted to try but did not feel com-
fortable exploring before. Now it is one
of my favorite things to do. My favorite
quote about sex was from the show “Six
Feet Under”(one of my all time favorite
shows). One of the character’s into being
his girlfriend’s slave. Initially it freaked
her out because she had been in recov-
ery for sex addiction and wanted to have
“normal sex.” Then she realizes there is
no such thing. He says something like
he thinks that sex should ideally be this
slow, uncovering of who they really are.
In that way, it would bring them closer to
each other. I am not quoting exactly but I
thought that was a beautiful way to put it
& to think about it.
You have in front you the man or the
woman of your dreams and you must
conquer his/her heart. What are your
seduction weapons? What would you
do to win her/his heart?
I am going to answer this question as I
have the man or woman of my dreams
in front of me because that is a big thing
with me. I do not feel comfortable an-
swering questions about sex just in terms
of men because I am just as attracted to
women.
This also seems like two different ques-
tions to me, what are my seduction
methods vs. what I would do to win their
heart?
As far as seduction, I am naturally a very
seductive person. I assume if they are
in front of me, they have already been
“seduced” by me (laughs). Now, if you
want details, it all depends on the person.
I personally get off a lot on what turns
the other person on. Therefore, that is
something I like to know once things start
getting sexual. Then I essentially just
give them what they want. Knowing the
person I am into is turned on, makes me
turned on. That is how I was able to go
down that road with the men who had the
“ball busting” (he taught me that is what
it is called) and legs fetish. He is easy
to use an example because he had such
specific and strange things (in relative
terms) that turned him on. For instance, he
was incredibly turned on just rubbing my
legs and feet (he was more into legs than
feet). That was always how we started our
foreplay.
With girls, I am usually very confident
since most love oral sex and I am good
at going down on girls. I love doing it,
which is probably why I am good at it. I
was seeing this girl once whom I found
out later was really just experimenting
with me. At the time, she was my “dream
girl” but I could tell she was not comfort-
able with oral so I did not really push it. I
showed her how to do other things that I
like. I do not know how specific I should
get (laughs). So yeah, it just depends on
the person for me.
Winning someone’s heart is a differ-
ent story. I have always found seduction
easier. Most people I encounter would not
mind sleeping with me but not everyone
I meet falls in love with me. I would say
people tend to get infatuated with me at
first but that wears off. I do not know that
I have ever pursued “winning someone’s
heart” or tried to get someone to fall in
love with me. I feel like either that hap-
pens organically or it does not. If any-
thing, I guess I am used to people trying
to win my heart. I do not at all mean that
to sound conceited, I am just trying to
answer the questions honestly. Even then,
if I fall someone it is for whom he or she
are, not what he or she do. I mean it defi-
nitely is nice when someone is romantic
but you either feel someone or you do not,
at least for me; I think vice versa. Either
someone falls for me for who I am, or not.
That is how I see it, but giving someone
a sexy lap dance does not hurt, I have
found.
You look good and in shape. Do you
have an exercise routine and or special
diet?
Now, I have been going back and forth
with exercising. I have exercised on/
off my whole life with mostly a cross
between cardio, Yoga, Pilates, and light-
weights. Since having my daughter (she is
almost five years old), I pretty much only
do Pilates. Right after she was born, I got
really into it b/c I found a teacher I just re-
ally clicked with. I had always been very
thin before that but did not have a lot of
muscle tone. However, about six months
after I was doing Pilates almost every day,
(even if it was just a few specific exercises
my teacher had shown me), I was in the
best shape of my life. I have a picture of
me in a red bikini from a shoot I did dur-
ing that time (it is on my website, under
“pictures”) and I literally have no body
fat, every muscle in my body is showing. I
love Pilates because not only does it make
you toned, it also makes you physically
strong. Right now, I am nowhere near as
disciplined as I was then, but my goal is
to get back to that.
As far as diet, I also go back and forth.
In general, I do not eat much red meat or
pork. I used to be a pescetarian (I only ate
fish). Then when I got pregnant I added
chicken (actually I ended up eating all
meat while I was pregnant). For a while,
I would only eat organic chicken but now