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partner and don’t care so much about what
our friends are doing. This makes our
capacity for enjoyment much greater.’
Better orgasms
‘Research into the sexual responses of
women in their 40s has shown that they
tend to have more intense orgasms than
younger women,’ says Julia. ‘Through ex-
perience, they have learned that the longer
foreplay goes on, the better their orgasm
will be. Younger women tend to rush into
intercourse more quickly.’
Improved communication
‘Older couples are better at expressing
their needs and wants to each other,’ says
Julia. ‘Good communication requires sub-
tlety and practice, and many people don’t
achieve this until they are in a long-term
When we’re younger, the thought of set-
tling down with the same person for the
rest of our life may be, frankly, terrify-
ing. We fret: How will we stay excited
about each other? How will we stave off
In actual fact, those in long-term relation-
ships in their 40s and beyond are likely to
be anything but bored, as Julia explains:
‘The mid-life crisis everyone talks about
actually happens much earlier. It’s the
30s that are the killer period for sex and
relationship problems.
‘This is when we worry most about getting
older, and start questioning everything in
our life. At this age we’re close enough to
our 20s to remember what we looked like
then and to keep comparing the way we
look now; we’re likely to have a young
family so we’re often tired, bored, or
‘The romantic phase of our relationship
has passed, and it’s quite likely we’ll look
at our life and think: ‘Is this what I really
wanted?’ It’s no coincidence that this is
the age at which most couples fall prey to
affairs, break up or go for counselling.’
So if you’ve been through a soul-searching
30s and your relationship has survived
intact, just think: you could have had your
mid-life crisis and not even noticed it.
Now it’s time to have some fun...
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