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feel about your size, but that there
is some small issue of trust on the
particular subject of sex.
If you are asking if size matters,
objectively, there is still no easy
answer to that, because, again,
we are all made differently and all
enjoy different things. It is sometimes
dependent on the shape, size and
sensitivity of a woman’s vagina and
clitoris how big or small she prefers
her partners, but that is not a consist-
ent truth either. If you are looking for
an anecdotal answer, I can say in
100% truth that I know more than
a handful of women who prefer
“smaller” or “average” guys to larger
because it hurts less for them.
If you are truly worried about be-
ing too small, there are numerous
ways to please your
partner, such as using other parts
of your anatomy, or a large sex toy,
that are sure to please her. If you are
insecure about your size, you can
always take that opportunity to focus
on technique instead and learn
some new tricks to blow her mind.
All it takes is some openness and
exploration.
The bottom line is that until your
partner gives you reason to believe
that she is unhappy with your sex
life or your size specifically, there is
no reason to feel too self-conscious
about it. We all have things about
our bodies that make us insecure,
but if you are both enjoying what
you have got going on, then why
not just enjoy it?
I was raised in a very
religious family,
now I am a mar-
ried woman and
sometimes I want
to try anal inter-
course. Is that
wrong? I am a
pervert for having
those
de-
sires?
(This question has to remain
anonymous)
Of course you are not a pervert! I
can understand wanting to remain
true to your faith, if that is the case,
and why you would wonder if your
desires were “wrong” or “dirty”.
However, know that, as long as it is
fully consensual and as long as they
do not hurt or maliciously victimize
another person, there are no wrong
sexual desires or acts, and you are
certainly not perverted. Many peo-
ple try anal, and there is plenty of
physical reason for this desire, being
that the area is a very sensitive one,
which is why so many people find it
enjoyable.
If your husband is open to trying
anal, discuss it with him and fig-
ure out a plan to ease yourself
into it. You can start by simply
using fingers for light touching
and progress from there if it
feels right physically and
emotionally. If you are
feeling ready to take
it to the next level,
do some research
on the subject,
take precau-
tion, and
take your