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your body. You or your partner should
begin by slowly massaging the outer
ring of the sphincter and surrounding
areas until you feel the anus relax.
Don’t jump the gun — you have plen-
ty of time to get to the main event.
Your breath and mind are crucial parts
of successful booty play. If you’re
anxiously forcing something into your
body, you’re just going to clench up
more. Take deep belly breaths and
let residual tension go with every
exhale. See if you can identify what I
call a “tension cord” in your midsec-
tion: Some of us notice that this cord
releases during the insertion process,
and once it does, that’s when the fun
begins. If you find yourself repeated-
ly tensing up, take a break and pick
things back up if and when you feel
ready to try again. If your partner
isn’t attuned to your body’s cues, it’s
especially important to vocalize what
does and doesn’t feel good so they can
respond accordingly.
6. “Tip in” at an angle.
You might think that whatever you’re
putting in your butt should enter head-
on, perpendicular to the body, but this
may actually make insertion more
difficult. Approach the sphincter at a
45 degree angle to the body, and if you
aren’t using your fingers as the insert-
able object, use an index finger to put
pressure against the tip of the toy or
phallus to guide it in at an angle until
it “tips” in.
Once you’ve got a centimeter or so
in, pay close attention to the way your
body feels receiving and the way the
sphincter is interacting with the insert-
able. If the fit feels too tight, ease out.
If you feel your butt opening up and
accepting what you’ve put against the
entryway, slowly continue ease in. You
can make subtle in-and-out motions
if that feels comfortable, or slightly
wiggle side-to-side to massage and
relax the anus.
7. Go for the hot spots — and have
fun!
Anal penetration can directly stimulate
the prostate, if you have a penis. If you
have a vagina, anal penetration can
indirectly stimulate its sensitive front
wall, which some call the G-spot. Both
the prostate and this front wall are typ-
ically located about two to three inch-
es inside the body on the belly side, so
angle the insertable up and toward the
belly at a medium-to-shallow depth to
stimulate them. Short strokes are ideal
if you’re using a dildo or penis, and
“come hither” or side-to-side motions
work great if you’re using fingers. Be
sure to not prod or poke at this area,
especially if you’re stimulating the
prostate, because it can feel incredibly
uncomfortable for the receiver.
Even if you’re already familiar with
“G-spot” stimulation, you might find
this new method of indirect stimula-
tion even more delicious than stimu-
lation via the vaginal canal (I know
many folks who prefer it, in fact!).
And remember that just because
you’re focusing on the booty doesn’t
mean you should neglect other parts
of the body: Stimulating the clit with
a hand or toy during anal penetration
can make for a delightful combo.
At the end of the day, when it comes
to anal sex, do what makes
your
body
feel good. And don’t give up if
your first attempt isn›t immediately
wonderful: This type of play can have
a bit of a learning curve, so go at your
own pace, communicate with your
partner, and enjoy the ride.
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