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Butt stuff is an entirely different type
of play from oral and vaginal sex for
many reasons. Lovers of anal sex ap-
preciate it for its highly intimate nature
and the unique sensation of fullness
it gives the receiver. Almost everyone
has an anus, and since the anus has a
ton of highly sensitive nerve endings,
it’s absolutely thrilling to try anal
stimulation if you haven’t explored
it before. Having said that, butt stuff
should be something
you
choose to
do — not something you do to please
anyone but yourself, and certainly not
something anyone can be pushy or
coercive about doing with you.
While it is fun as heck when done
right, there’s a whole bunch of misin-
formation out there about it. Because
everyone deserves to have a beautiful
bum experience every time, here are
seven tips that will help you prepare
for and then enjoy yours.
1. First things first: Figure out your
safer-sex approach.
Keep in mind that if you’re not using
a condom, anal sex is a higher-risk sex
act, especially for the receiver. The
rectum doesn’t self-lubricate and its
lining is more delicate than that of the
vagina or mouth, meaning you’re more
likely to tear something during anal
than during vaginal or oral sex — and
tears can allow viruses or bacteria to
enter the bloodstream. HIV and hepati-
tis are easily spread this way because
they’re transmitted through blood-to-
blood or semen-to-blood contact.
To minimize risk, you can use a la-
tex or polyisoprene condom during
anal sex with a penis or dildo (unless
you can completely sterilize the
dildo), dams during anal rimming,
and nitrile gloves during manual
penetration. (Of course, even if
you
are
using a condom, many
common STIs, including syphilis and
herpes, can still be transmitted by
skin-to-skin contact.)
If you’re fluid-bonded with your part-
ner — meaning you’ve chosen to stop
using barrier methods, a choice that
should be based on the results of com-
prehensive STI testing — it’s still im-
portant to avoid transferring bacteria
from the rectum to other parts of the
body, for example the vagina. Switch-
ing from anal to vaginal sex without
replacing the condom or thoroughly
washing the penis or dildo can lead to
a vaginal or urinary tract infection.
2. Anal play should be pain-free, so
take it slow and pile on the lube.
Your rectum is not a vaginal canal, nor
is it a mouth and throat. Don’t expect
your anus to work like other orific-
es. If you’re going to be the giver of
anal penetration, don’t fuck an anus
like any other orifice. Not only is the
rectum a canal that does not self-lu-
bricate as the vaginal canal and mouth
do, the entry is also “gated” by two
— yes, two — sphincters. This means
that you shouldn’t dream of having
anal sex without a thick water- or sili-
cone-based lube.
It also means you’ve got to take it
easy, at least at first. Pain is the body’s
natural way of telling you to slow
down or stop what you’re doing.
While moments of discomfort may oc-
cur when you’re new to all the booty
feelings that come with anal, sharper
sensations are warning signs that
something isn’t happening correctly or
that you’re moving too quickly. Some
folks combat this by using numbing
or relaxing creams, but I urge you to
avoid these at all costs. If you can’t
feel pain, you won’t know when your
body is telling you to stop, and you
risk injury to your anal tissues.
Some people with hemorrhoids find
anal too painful, but others find it can
actually relieve pain (stimulating the
butt draws blood to the area, which
keeps circulation flowing). Again, it’s
your choice whether or not to play
with your butt, so if you have hem-
orrhoids, just do what feels right for
your body.
3. Poop may show up from time to
time, and it’s NBD.
Some people fear that anal sex is go-
ing to result in an explosion of poop.
These fears are generally overblown,
but it’s not unusual to encounter bits
of poo from time to time. Some people
anally douche before doing butt stuff,
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